handling conflict

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“I was cupbearer to the king.” Nehemiah 1:11

“I was cupbearer to the king.” Nehemiah 1:11

“I said to the king… ‘Why should my face not look sad when the city where my ancestors are buried lies in ruins, and its gates have been destroyed by fire?’” Nehemiah 2:3

Handling Conflict God’s Way

Truth Maintaining Healthy Relationships includes:

1. Wise expression of hurt and disappointment

Handling Conflict God’s Way

Truth

Tool

Maintaining Healthy Relationships includes:

1. Wise expression of hurt and disappointment

1. Employ “I”-statements instead of “YOU”-statements

Handling Conflict God’s Way

Truth

Tool

Myth

Maintaining Healthy Relationships includes:

1. Wise expression of hurt and disappointment

1. Employ “I”-statements instead of “YOU”-statements

1. If I’m walking in God’s will, I won’t experience relational conflict

Handling Conflict God’s Way

Truth

Tool

Myth

Maintaining Healthy Relationships includes:

1. Wise expression of hurt and disappointment

1. Employ “I”-statements instead of “YOU”-statements

1. If I’m walking in God’s will, I won’t experience relational conflict

“When I heard their outcry and these charges, I was very angry. But then, I pondered them in my mind. Afterward, I approached the nobles and officials. I told them…“What you are doing is not right!” Nehemiah 5:6, 7, 9

Handling Conflict God’s Way

Truth

Tool

Myth

Maintaining Healthy Relationships includes:

1. Wise expression of hurt and disappointment 2. Taking active responsibility for conflict resolution

1. Employ “I”-statements instead of “YOU”-statements

1. If I’m walking in God’s will, I won’t experience relational conflict

Handling Conflict God’s Way

Truth

Tool

Myth

Maintaining Healthy Relationships includes:

1. Wise expression of hurt and disappointment

1. Employ “I”-statements instead of “YOU”-statements

2. Taking active responsibility for conflict resolution

2. Conflict resolution includes techniques for de-escalating anger

1. If I’m walking in God’s will, I won’t experience relational conflict

Handling Conflict God’s Way

Truth

Tool

Myth

1. Employ “I”-statements instead of “YOU”-statements

1. If I’m walking in God’s will, I won’t experience relational conflict 2. God expects me to resolve all the conflicts I have with all people

Maintaining Healthy Relationships includes:

1. Wise expression of hurt and disappointment 2. Taking active responsibility for conflict resolution

2. Conflict resolution includes techniques for de-escalating anger

Handling Conflict God’s Way

Truth

Tool

Myth

1. Wise expression of hurt and disappointment

1. Employ “I”-statements instead of “YOU”-statements

2. Taking active responsibility for conflict resolution

2. Conflict resolution includes techniques for de-escalating anger

1. If I’m walking in God’s will, I won’t experience relational conflict 2. God expects me to resolve all the conflicts I have with all people

Maintaining Healthy Relationships includes:

3. Relying on God for guidance in my conflicts

Handling Conflict God’s Way

Truth

Tool

Myth

1. Wise expression of hurt and disappointment

1. Employ “I”-statements instead of “YOU”-statements

2. Taking active responsibility for conflict resolution

2. Conflict resolution includes techniques for de-escalating anger 3. Listen to God in prayer!

1. If I’m walking in God’s will, I won’t experience relational conflict 2. God expects me to resolve all the conflicts I have with all people

Maintaining Healthy Relationships includes:

3. Relying on God for guidance in my conflicts

Handling Conflict God’s Way

Truth

Tool

Myth

1. Wise expression of hurt and disappointment

1. Employ “I”-statements instead of “YOU”-statements

2. Taking active responsibility for conflict resolution

2. Conflict resolution includes techniques for de-escalating anger 3. Listen to God in prayer!

1. If I’m walking in God’s will, I won’t experience relational conflict 2. God expects me to resolve all the conflicts I have with all people 3. God wants me to be a Peacekeeper who avoids Conflict

Maintaining Healthy Relationships includes:

3. Relying on God for guidance in my conflicts

Handling Conflict God’s Way