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Your Wedding A GODLY GUIDE

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Dear Couple in Christ:

Contents Planning a Godly Wedding��3 Wedding Planning Tips ��4 Bridal Calendar ��6

Weddings are one of the most sacred and significant ceremonies of the church. The Bible tells us that Jesus is our Bridegroom and awaits with awesome anticipation the marriage supper of the Lamb—that time when His Bride, the Church, will be presented to Him, without spot or blemish for an eternal union. That is why every earthly wedding has a special and endearing spot in the heart of our Lord Jesus Christ. With this in mind, we desire to make your wedding day the most memorable occasion for you and the heavenly hosts who watch. From the decorations to the vows, we invite God’s Spirit to speak the joy of this celebration to all who participate.

Rehearsal & Wedding Day Schedule ��7 Reception Checklist ��9 Marriage License System �� 12 Wedding Vendors (Suggested List)�� 13 Weddings at Calvary�� 17 Pastor & Facility Request Form�� 18 Completion of Counseling Form�� 20

As with every other event that takes place at Calvary Chapel, we approach each wedding as a ministry opportunity. Many couples have prayed long and laboriously for the salvation of their family members and friends. Your wedding and reception are an opportunity for them to witness the reality of your God and a chance for them to experience His presence in a way that is meaningful and applicable. For this reason, we have made some suggestions on the following pages we feel will accomplish this goal. We pray that you will enjoy your special day, knowing that God has foreordained every second for His glory. Allow Him to lavish you in His love, keep you at peace in His providence, and inspire you with the eternal perspective of the heavenly wedding that awaits us when Christ returns. Calvary Chapel Wedding Ministry

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The Wedding The primary things you need to plan are your ceremony and reception dates, times, and locations. Once that is done, you can begin planning the many other details.

Flowers Flowers can be delivered to the church day of your wedding.

Music You may use CDs or hire a pianist, violinist, or other musician for your wedding. Planning your music in advance can help to create the atmosphere that you desire at your wedding. As you make your selections, remember that a wedding and reception are wonderful times to “let your light shine” as you share this day of celebration with your family and friends.

Sound system The sound system in our Sanctuary and Chapel are available for your use; one of our Calvary Chapel sound technicians will be available to set up microphones and play your CDs.

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Planning a Godly Wedding Congratulations! He popped the question and you said, “Yes!” You’re about to embark on an amazing adventure. But before you get started with your “to do list,” take a deep breath and pray. Your marriage and wedding are gifts from God, and that’s why it’s important for you to give your plans to Him and commit yourself to glorifying Him throughout the planning, preparation, and ceremony. A Christian wedding should truly foreshadow that great day when the Bridegroom returns for His Church. So, let’s get ready! Take out your wedding planner and let’s begin planning your special Calvary Chapel wedding.

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Please be aware that the drums and percussion instruments cannot be removed from the stage—most couples find that the equipment is far enough away from the center of attention and is, therefore, not a distraction. Please do not move anything on the stage without permission.

Set up and tear down Calvary Chapel maintenance will take care of anything that they set up for you that belongs to the church. Set-up and tear down of your decorations and rented material is your responsibility. It’s a good idea to create a list with those things that are rented or belong to you and assign someone in your party to take care of it after the ceremony.

The reception We offer several elegant venue options to accommodate both small and large wedding receptions. The Grill coordinator will assist you in choosing the package that is best for you.

Food & Beverage If you are having a reception in one of our Banquet Halls, our catering staff will prepare and serve your food. Our Catering Manager will help you select a menu and decide on other details for your special event. No alcohol is allowed.

Wedding Planning Tips

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Keep it simple. Don’t get stuck with “tradition” for tradition’s sake. Find a theme that’s personal to you both. As you plan, don’t try to include everything you’ve seen in other weddings. Decide what aspects of the wedding are really important, then evaluate everything from the decorations to the music, food, and flowers.

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Stick to your budget. Evaluate every expense on your checklist using the following criteria:

Is it necessary?

Is it going to enhance the wedding?

Is it really important?

Will it glorify God?

By evaluating each item, you may discover you are able to afford some things that are really important while cutting back on those that are not.

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Delegate! The purpose of having a bridal party is to have people helping you. Be bold. Ask people to help you, but choose wisely!

Wait on the Lord. Don’t rush ahead of Him. Every morning, give your wedding plans to God. Before you go to the bridal shop, bakery, or caterer’s office, pray that God’s will be done. And if things don’t go as planned, it may be because He has something far better for you than what you could ask, think, or imagine. Be patient.

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Prepare for your marriage as much as you plan for your wedding. Don’t be so busy planning your wedding that you neglect your premarital counseling. And don’t neglect each other and your relationship to God as a couple during this time. Find time to treasure this season of your relationship to God as a single Christian.Your marriage, as well as your wedding, will be better for it.

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Let your guests see Jesus in you. Select your music and any special vows very carefully. Take advantage of this opportunity to have your pastor share the gospel with your unsaved friends and family.

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Be spiritually prepared for the ceremony. Concentrate during the ceremony; listen to the words of the pastor and special music, and enjoy your wedding. It goes by quickly!

Stay on your knees and in the Word. Think about it—God already has your wedding planned! He knows every detail. Even now, He’s creating the very flowers that will decorate the church. You need only to seek Him daily so He can show you what He has planned just for you.

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Bridal Calendar Planning a formal wedding may take more than twelve months. Use this list as a guide to help keep your event planning on track. 6-12 Months Before: ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑ ❑❑

Determine the type of wedding you want and consider the following: size, setting, degree of formality. Discuss wedding budget with your parents, fiancé, and possibly, his parents. Plan a color scheme for the wedding reception. Choose your dress and headpiece. Select a wedding consultant. Determine the size of the guest list. Compile the names and addresses of your guests. Select the wedding party—yours and his. Select and confirm your photographer. Select and confirm your videographer. Select and confirm your florist. Choose the music, musicians, and soloist for the ceremony and reception. Consult a travel agent for honeymoon ideas. Complete the honeymoon plans with your fiancé. Select and register for china, silver, gifts, etc.

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Announce your engagement in the newspaper. Shop together for wedding rings. Select and confirm the transportation for your wedding day. Select a baker and order your wedding cake, groom’s cake, and mints. Set a date to order your bridesmaids’ dresses; confirm the delivery date for your dress. Begin shopping for the men’s wedding attire. Complete your guest list. Order the invitations and announcements. Check blood test and marriage license requirements.

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1 Month Before: ❑❑ Have a final dress and headpiece fitting. ❑❑ Have a formal bridal portrait done. ❑❑ Purchase gifts for your wedding party. ❑❑ Select flowers for both the ceremony and reception. ❑❑ Have the attendants’ parties. ❑❑ Ensure that your accessories are in order— toasting goblets, garter, candles, ring pillow, etc. ❑❑ Finalize the rehearsal dinner details. ❑❑ Draw a map to direct guests to the ceremony and reception.

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Give a final guest count to the caterer and baker. Give and/or attend a bridesmaid’s party. Confirm all honeymoon reservations and accommodations. Pick up your tickets and traveler’s checks. Begin your honeymoon packing. Make sure you have your marriage license. Pick up your wedding attire; make sure everything fits. Keep up with gift acknowledgements. Finish addressing your announcements to mail on your wedding day. Rehearse the wedding ceremony with all participants. Remind the maid of honor and bridesmaids of your rehearsal dinner details; present gifts to attendants at the rehearsal dinner. ❑❑ Get a good night’s sleep before your wedding.

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Allow plenty of time to meet with your beauty consultant(s). Remain calm and try to relax. Don’t forget to bring your wedding rings and marriage license.

Select your hair and cosmetics specialist(s). Confirm all details with your selected professionals. Confirm ceremony details with your pastor/minister. Select the men’s wedding attire and order the right sizes. Purchase accessories such as toasting goblets, ring pillow, garter, candles, etc. Buy the bride’s/groom’s wedding gift. Arrange the wedding rehearsal details. Discuss the wedding rehearsal details with the groom. Plan the attendants’ parties. Make an appointment with your beauty consultant. Arrange accommodations for out-of-town attendants and guests. Finalize your honeymoon plans. Pick up your wedding rings; check the engravings. Mail your invitations. Write thank-you notes for gifts.

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Rehearsal & Wedding Day Schedule A month preceding your wedding, fill out as much of this form as you can before you meet with the wedding coordinator to discuss all the details of the wedding. This form is designed especially for weddings at Calvary Chapel; however, even couples having off-site weddings can use it as a guideline. The wedding coordinator will work with you to make sure all the details of your wedding go as smoothly as possible. Wedding of �� Date of wedding_________________________________________________________________________________Time�� Date of rehearsal_________________________________________________________________________________Time�� Number of guests expected to attend wedding ceremony_____________

Preparation for the Ceremony

We would like to decorate the church: (select one)

❑ Before the rehearsal ❑ After the rehearsal ❑ Before the wedding

These vendors will be delivering the following items to the church ��

Wedding Party Arrivals

Bride and her bridesmaids will be arriving at ________ (time) (Please be at the church one hour before the wedding.) The Bride and her attendants will be dressing at (choose one)

❑ home

❑ church

❑ home

❑ church

Groom and groomsmen will be arriving at ____________________ (time) The Groom and groomsmen will be dressing at (choose one)

Photographer will arrive at �� (Please discuss with the photographer ahead of time which pictures he/she will take before the ceremony and which shots you want taken after the ceremony.)

Guest Seating

Ushers to be in position at _______________________________________________

(_________ hour before wedding).

Guests will sign the guest book as they (choose one)

❑ Enter

❑ Leave ceremony ❑ At the reception

Guest book attendant �� Sound technician will begin playing recorded music _________ hour prior to start time. If there are any candelabras, please indicate when they will be lit. ❑ Before guests arrive ❑ By the following ushers as part of the ceremony�� Are mothers lighting the individual candles that are part of the unity candle?

❑ Yes ❑ No

Are the individual candles going to be lit before the service starts?

❑ Yes ❑ No

Special Seating: Number of rows to be saved ________for groom’s family ________for bride’s family Grandparents’ Names �� Will be seated by�� Groom’s parents will be seated by�� Bride’s mother will be seated by�� Please list any other special family members who will be seated during this time. ��

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Entry Procession Men will proceed to the altar in this order: Pastor Groom Best Man Groomsmen Women will proceed to the altar in this order: (Start from the outside of the altar, working your way in to the maid or matron of honor.) Bridesmaids Maid of Honor Ring Bearer Flower Girl Bride to be escorted by ��

Order of Ceremony

(Varies slightly depending on pastor or your own requests.) Welcome and Prayer Charge (Scripture, explanation of wedding ceremony, etc.) Exchange of vows Exchange of rings Lighting of the unity candle Communion (for the bride and groom) Gospel message Pronouncement of marriage Kiss Introduction of couple Recessional Bride and Groom Flower Girl/Ring Bearer Wedding Party Parents Grandparents

Special Music

The following songs will be performed during the specified times�� Performed by �� Are you having a receiving line (triumphal entry) at the church?

❑ Yes ❑ No

If yes, who will participate? ��

Wedding Party Photos

The wedding party will go to the bride’s room after the ceremony to get ready for pictures as soon as the Sanctuary is empty. The following friends, relatives, or wedding party members have been asked to help tear down decorations, etc. ��

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Reception Checklist Start time Our reception will begin at __________________ (one hour from start of wedding)

Guest book Will the guest book be at the reception? ❑ On a separate table ❑ On the gift table

Name of guest book attendant ____________________

Refreshments Guests will begin helping themselves to food and beverages before the bridal party arrives.

❑ Yes ❑ No

If yes, you might want someone to announce this with the microphone and say a blessing to begin the food line. Guests will be served only beverages.

❑ Yes ❑ No

The bridal party will join the reception as soon as pictures are completed (___________________Time). (Figure approximately 30-45 minutes after start of reception; let your photographer know in advance that you have a limited amount of time for the reception.)

Announcement of Bridal Party We will have the entire bridal party announced.

❑ Yes ❑ No

We will have only the bride and groom announced.

❑ Yes ❑ No

We will have the entire wedding party announced.

❑ Yes ❑ No

(If yes, list the people to be announced. Begin with parents, bridesmaids, groomsmen, maid or matron of honor, best man, and bride and groom last.) Who will be making announcements or serving as MC?___________________________

Entertainment Complete the following entertainment section and give a copy to the announcer.

Dancing Do you plan to have a first dance?

❑ Yes ❑ No

If yes, to what song? ______________________________________

Would you like the rest of the bridal party to join you halfway through the song?

❑ Yes ❑ No

Would you like the other guests to be invited to join you?

❑ Yes ❑ No

After dinner, will there be special dances? (Father/Daughter, Mother/Son, etc.)

❑ Yes ❑ No

Toast and blessing Will the best man be making a toast?

❑ Yes ❑ No

Who will be asking the blessing? ��

Wedding cake Will there be music during the cutting of the wedding cake?

❑ Yes ❑ No

What song would you like to play? ��

Bouquet & Garter Will the bride be tossing the bouquet?

❑ Yes ❑ No

Will the groom be tossing the garter?

❑ Yes ❑ No

Room set-up (Please list your special set-up needs)______ tables for ___________guests

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______ rectangular tables for food, cake, gifts

______ chairs

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Marriage License System Frequently Asked Questions Where do I go to apply for a marriage license?

A marriage license or a Civil Marriage ceremony by the Clerk of Courts Office, may be obtained at the following locations: Main Broward County Courthouse Marriage Division 201 SE 6th Street, Room 270 Fort Lauderdale, Florida

North Regional Courthouse One-Stop Customer Service Division 1600 W Hillsboro Blvd., Room 160 Deerfield Beach, Florida

West Regional Courthouse One-Stop Customer Service Division 100 N Pine Island Road, Room 180 Plantation, Florida

South Regional Courthouse One-Stop Customer Service Division 3550 Hollywood Blvd., Room 160 Hollywood, Florida

One Stop Division Rick Case Honda (located in the Used Car Building)

15700 Rick Case Honda Way Davie, Florida

Please note: Both parties (bride and groom) age 18 and over must apply in person, at the same time.

What are the marriage license fees and waiting period?

The standard marriage license fee is $93.50 and includes a three-day waiting period before a marriage ceremony can be performed. The only exceptions to the three-day waiting period are: * If both applicants reside out-of-state and are able to present valid proof of photo identification indicating their out-of-state address at the time of filing the marriage license application. (Please call our office for other acceptable proof.)

NOTE: If the couple elects the option to attend a premarital course from a registered provider, the marriage license fee is lowered to $61 and the waiting period is waived upon providing an original certificate of completion at the time of filing the application.

* If the applicants present an original premarital course completion certificate at the time of filing the marriage license application.

Prior to obtaining a marriage license, both parties must sign an affidavit indicating they have read the Family Law Handbook.

What is the Premarital Course Provider Option?

A couple has the option to take a premarital course from a registered course provider. When a premarital course certificate is presented at the time of the marriage license application, the fee is reduced to $61 and the license is effective the same day as issued. The optional premarital course may be obtained from a course provider who is registered with the Broward Clerk of Courts.

What types of payment methods are accepted? Fees are payable by cash, cashier’s check, or money order. Make payable to the Clerk of Courts. No business or personal checks will be accepted. Visa and MasterCard credit cards are also accepted at all locations.

What types of required proof of identification are accepted? There are two (2) forms of identification that may be required. 1. The first form of identification required is a valid photo identification issued by the federal or state government. The photo identification must have the correct legal name, date of birth, and signature of the applicant. The following valid proofs of photo identifications are accepted: * Driver’s License (U.S. State or Government) * Passport * U.S. Military Identification * State Identification Card (U.S. State or Government) * Alien Registration Card

2. A second form of identification is required if the applicant has been issued a U.S. Social Security number. In accordance with Florida State Statute, any person who has been issued a Social Security number shall provide that number. Any person who is not a citizen of the U.S. may provide either a Social Security number or an Alien Registration number, if one has been issued. If neither has been issued, another form of ID may be required. There are no blood tests required. You do not need to be a resident of this county or the State of Florida to obtain a Marriage License. Marriage Licenses are for use within the State for sixty (60) days from the date of issue.

The Family Law Handbook should be read prior to obtaining the Marriage License. The Family Law Handbook is available for viewing in the Clerk of Courts Marriage and One-Stop-Divisions or on the Internet at www.flclerks.com.

If either applicant has been previously married, the exact date of the last divorce, death, or annulment must be provided.

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Wedding Vendors (Suggested list) Photographers

* Steve and Michelle Lawson 305-986-7029 * Frances Fernandez 754-422-2506 * Sandee Jewell 954-493-7401 * Jody Fairchild 561-307-3939 * Paul McAllister 954-817-7683 * Liz Ordoñez 954-561-0177 * Photomasters (Mary Beth Jones) 954-676-3065 * Kowal Photography (Brett Kowal) 954-667-8388 * Matthew Ennis 561-860-2083 * Rich Smith 423-402-0331 * Erika Diaz Photography 786-693-3761 * Justin Young 954-849-2900

Florists

* Deerfield Florist * Doris the Florist * Field of Flowers * Joy’s Florist

DJ’s

* Edifying Beats – Danny Abadia * Valienti & Associates (Valienti Henry) * D2G Entertainment – Al Fuller

Butterfly Release * David Fine

Bands/Musicians

* Becky Gardner (Violin) * Bobby Bemis (Piano) * Consortio (String Quartet) * Alexandra Gomez

Videographers

* Fruition Audio/Video Productions (Dean Dydek) * Value Video (David Mas) * Wedding Concepts Video (Santiago Ormenio)

Hair and Make-Up

* Headliner Salon/Denise and Harl Hughes * Stephanie Heramb

Cakes

* Daily Catering –Darren Schnagel * Susie’s Scrumptious Sweets * We Take the Cake

Creative

* Candid Calligraphy * D’Zigner Gifts & Events * Marlea Yarusevich (MyDesigns)

MichelleLawson.com BlacktiePhotoFlorida.com Fairchild-Photography.com LizPhotos.com/Life PhotoMasters.net BrettKowal.com RichSmithPhotography.net [email protected] Facebook.com/JustinYoungPhoto

954-427-2100 954-556-4411 954-680-6888 954-566-0099

DeerfieldFlorist.com

954-722-2190 954-464-7678 954-652-8909

EdifyingBeats.com [email protected] [email protected]

561-441-4873

[email protected]

954-288-8719 954-235-3685 954-344-7397 954-778-5448

[email protected] [email protected]

954-721-1005 954-540-3849 561-929-1644

[email protected]

FieldofFlowers.com JoysFlorist.com

954-491-8790 954-931-1129

954-270-0120 954-476-0476 954-764-2253

954-937-0198 954-200-0090 954-873-9622

[email protected] [email protected] MyDesigns4You.com|[email protected]

Many vendors have been recommended by previous couples; others are listed at their own request. Please ask for samples, references, etc.

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Weddings at Calvary

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Weddings at Calvary

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Before we can book the church or a pastor (even for an off-site wedding), you must meet with your individual counselor at least once, and have him sign the attached Completion of Required Counseling Memo. Please do not ask us to book the church or a pastor before we have received this memo.

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To book the church and/or pastor, please submit the completed Pastor and Facility Request Form, leaving it attached to the Completion of Required Counseling Memo mentioned above.

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You may call to see if a certain date is available, but you still must submit it in writing. It will then be checked against the church calendar, and if there is no conflict, you will be notified that it has been approved.

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If you’re having your wedding off-site, you must still submit the attached forms and book the pastor through this office. Please do not call the pastors directly. We have designed these forms and procedures to make things more efficient for everyone, especially you! With the number of couples we have getting married at Calvary Chapel, it’s to your advantage to have all of your requests submitted in writing! Please fill in all that apply. Return original form. Type or print clearly.

For more information, please contact: Faith Roehm: Wedding Ministry Manager at 954-315-4476, [email protected]

Miriam Duame: Wedding Coordinator at 954-315-4244, [email protected]

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Please cut out and return completed form.

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Pastor & Facility Request Form Calvary Chapel is available for weddings on Friday evenings, Saturdays, and Sunday afternoons. afternoons. Saturday Saturdayweddings weddingsininthe theChapel Chapelmust muststart startbetween between 10am and 4pm; weddings in the Sanctuary in Fort Lauderdale, Boca Raton, or Boynton, Plantation must start and 1pm. Rehearsal Plantationor must start between 10ambetween and 1pm.10am Rehearsal is scheduled forisFriday scheduled for Friday at 5pm, unless and otherwise requested and approved by the at 5pm, unless otherwise requested approved by the officiating pastor. officiating pastor. Bride’s Name��

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We would like to have our wedding ceremony at Calvary Chapel. Date requested: �� Time:��

We want to have our wedding at:

We are planning to have our wedding off-site.

❑❑ Fort Lauderdale Campus __ Sanctuary __ Chapel __ Courtyard

Date requested: �� Time:�� Location:��

❑❑ Boca Raton Campus ❑❑ Boynton Beach Campus ❑❑ Plantation Campus Please make sure you and your wedding party are on site one hour before the start time of the wedding. Other weddings may follow yours and if your wedding is late, theirs will be too.

These pastors/ministers perform weddings: John Chinelly, Fidel Gomez, Stephan Tchividjian, Greg Anderson, Fred Gushue, Jorge Bustamante, Charlie Halleran, Chet Lowe, Reuben Ramsaran, Jerry Sander, David Gordon, Jeff Denis, Mike Leger, Billy Venezia, Mike Rust, Joe Ferraro, Jeff Seward, Bill Schott, Tim Young, Trent Gamble, David Fine, Josiah Graves, James Seawell, Chris Baselice, Duane Roberts, Kelly Nothnagle, Joel Sonnenberg, Steve Carlson, Ray Fagin, Paul Chastain, John Gauntt, Ron Collins, and Matt Hickman. Pastor/Minister requested (in order of preference): 1. 2. 3.

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Please submit this form to the Wedding Ministry along with the Completion of Required Counseling form, signed by your counselor. Once a date has been approved, you will be notified and we will then begin contacting your selected pastors/ministers.

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Completion of Counseling Form To:

Miriam Duame – Wedding Coordinator

Faith Roehm – Wedding Ministry Manager

From: Premarital Counselor Re:

Completion of Required Counseling

Date: �� The couple below has completed the required premarital counseling class and has met with me for at least one counseling session. Please proceed with helping them make the necessary arrangements for their wedding.

Name of Bride:�� Name of Groom:�� Name of Counselor:�� Signature of Counselor:�� Notes: �� Please submit this signed form and the completed Pastor and Facility Request Form to Miriam Duame or Faith Roehm at the Information Booth (in the Sanctuary Lobby) or the church office.

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“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” – GENESIS 2:24 (NKJV)

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